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“Polyamory” Is NOT Synonymous With “Consensual Nonmonogamy”

“Polyamory” Is NOT Synonymous With “Consensual Nonmonogamy”

The media has REALLY been paying attention to consensual nonmonogamy over these last few months. BUT it all centers around polyamory. Conflating polyamory with all types of nonmonogamy can be misleading at best, harmful at worst. Let’s look at why this is the case, and how to avoid its pitfalls.

7 Common Yet Avoidable Mistakes That Make You Fail in Sex and Love

7 Common Yet Avoidable Mistakes That Make You Fail in Sex and Love

There’s more information available about how to be happy in our relationships than ever before, yet so many of us continue to struggle with this essential aspect of our lives. This week, I explain the 7 most common and heartbreaking, yet avoidable, mistakes I see people make that stop them from living their dream sex and love lives.

What Is Squirting and Where Does It Come From?

What Is Squirting and Where Does It Come From?

Squirting is a fascinating yet confusing topic, where there’s huge amounts of misinformation, due its lack of academic research, as well as inaccuracies in both academic and sex educators messaging. So in today’s edition, I answer one of the most common questions I get about squirting: What is squirting and where does it come from?

Are Men Dominant, and Women Submissive?

Are Men Dominant, and Women Submissive?

Conventional wisdom pins men as dominant and women as submissive, but is this binary truly rooted in reality, or is it a gender stereotype? What do the fantasies of Canadians reveal about our desires?

Are Men Designed to “Spread Their Seed”?

Are Men Designed to “Spread Their Seed”?

The popular narrative claims that men are inherently nonmonogamous, driven by evolution to “spread their seed,” while women are inherently monogamous, built for long-term love and attachment. Is it true?

The big or little (…or non-existent) “O”

The big or little (…or non-existent) “O”

Do you have an orgasm nearly every time you have sex? If you’re a cis-male, I’m willing to bet the answer is “yes.” And for everyone else, it’s complicated. We’ve heard that women really like foreplay – and some opt for it instead of intercourse. Some cis-males are surprised by this because according to this study referenced in this article, cis-males have an over 90% chance of… Read More

How to Open Your Relationship Without Ruining Everything

How to Open Your Relationship Without Ruining Everything

Q&A with Dr. Zhana If you don’t know me, I’m a professor of Human Sexuality at New York University and the author of Open Smarter – an online course for individuals and couples who are curious about nonmonogamy and open relationships. I have been in open relationships my whole life (first non-consensually and then consensually later in… Read More

What the hell is “monogamish”?!

What the hell is “monogamish”?!

Monogamy. We’ve heard of this; I’ll bet it’s been the norm for most of us. You know that friend of yours that has threesomes with his girlfriend and other women from time-to-time? Or that couple that flirts with others shamelessly, but never goes beyond a make-out session? Or maybe you’ve been in a LDR (long… Read More