The Appeal (and Reality) of a 100-Men Train

Happy International Women’s Day!

In the spirit of women’s empowerment, let’s talk about something that until recently was absolutely unimaginable for a woman to even voice as a desire, let alone act on it: a massive gangbang/train. Thanks to all of the social, economic, medical, and technological progress we’ve enjoyed in the last 50 years or so, this is now a luxury some of us can not only dream of, but actually experience…

Last December, the story about OnlyFans creator Lily Phillips and her 100-men train hit the internet, sparking intense reactions online. This is the first in a three-part series exploring the conversation that I had with my X and IG audiences.

As the Lily story was making the rounds, I posted an opinion on X suggesting that if Lily didn’t seem very happy after her experience, it wasn’t because such an experience is inherently unsatisfying or harmful, but because she didn’t do it right.

For many folks on X (in a post viewed almost 1 million times), it was really hard to wrap their heads around the idea that a woman might genuinely want to engage in such an experience–or come out of it physically and emotionally unscathed.

(Many were so triggered by my suggestion, they hurled every possible insult known to mankind my way. Click here to read the X thread where I documented all the different types of online harassment I got in response!)

So I turned to my sex-positive Instagram audience to ask: Do women actually find this hot? If so, why? (I initially shared this as an X thread – click here to read it there.)

What Women Said: The Fantasy vs. Reality

I ran two polls—first asking women whether a 100-men gangbang sounded appealing. Here’s what my audience had to say:

📊 Out of 399 female respondents:

• 9.5% said they’d do it if they knew they’d be safe.
• 17% found it hot as a fantasy but wouldn’t actually do it.
• 73% didn’t find the idea appealing at all.

But when I lowered the number to 10 men instead of 100, the results shifted dramatically…

📊 Out of 594 female respondents:

• 49% said they’d do it if it was safe.
• 20% found it hot as a fantasy.
• 31% still found it unappealing.

The Psychology of the 100-Men Fantasy

Clearly, a 100-men (or even a 10-men) gangbang isn’t for everyone, but for those who do find it arousing, they had some interesting insights into what’s hot about this fantasy.

1. The Kink of Being “Used” and “Useful”

“It’s very appealing to be both pleased [..] & I like the idea of being used.”

One recurring theme was the appeal of being completely desired and overwhelmed by multiple partners at once. Some women described it as a mix of CNC (consensual non-consent) and service kink—a feeling of being taken, but in a way they are fully in control of.

2. The “Buffet of Dicks” Effect

For some, the thrill wasn’t about serving others—it was about variety. The idea of experiencing different bodies, sizes, and styles of pleasure in one setting was deeply exciting.

“I’d love the different bodies, races, sizes, rhythms, ages, all of it.”
“I’d want so many different dick sizes, all races, like a buffet of dick.”

3. A Worshipful Experience, Not Just a Train

Not every fantasy centered on submission or objectification. Some women wanted a setting where they were the center of adoration and pleasure, with men eagerly seeking to satisfy them.

“If a femdom would arrange this, I think that would be sooo hot. 100 men coming one by one, looking for a way to give her pleasure, to satisfy her. Worship her, make her comfortable, bring presents.”

4. The Thrill of Organized Chaos

One man shared how he arranged a 10-man gangbang for his partner, describing it as:

“The hedonistic pleasure is what’s so appealing. [..] controlled chaos with elements of CNC, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and cuckolding all rolled into one.”

For them, the appeal wasn’t just the act itself—it was the psychological thrill of setting it up, curating the right energy, and making sure everything was well-orchestrated.

5. Not Just for Women—Men Have This Fantasy Too

Some bisexual and pansexual men chimed in, saying they’d also love to experience a 100-men train—on themselves.

“As a man, I’d love a train of 100 men on me.”
“Group sex is a hot fantasy for me in a scenario where everyone engages with everyone.”

But Not Everyone Finds This Hot…

Of course, for most respondents, the idea wasn’t appealing at all—and their reasons were just as varied.

• Some cited physical limits (“Ouch. The chafing. How would one even manage that?”)
• Others mentioned logistical concerns (“I don’t know 100 hot men.”)
• Some saw it as overwhelming (“10? Yes. 100? Too much.”)
• Many worried about stigma and judgment (“I would love to be used like that but would be afraid of judgment.”)

So, What Does This All Mean?

This conversation highlights an important truth: People have wildly different turn-ons, and what seems unthinkable to one person is deeply arousing to another.

A 100-men gangbang is an extreme fantasy, but as we’ve seen, it’s one that does exist for a small but significant number of people. (Of course, my sex-positive IG audience is not a representative sample by any means, and this fantasy is likely less prevalent in the general population, but the point is, there’s a group of women who have it.)

And for those who do fantasize about it, the appeal is rarely just about the number—it’s about the psychology, the dynamics, and the experience they imagine.

Of course, fantasy and reality don’t always align, and a large-scale sexual experience like this carries risks—physical, logistical, and emotional. But that’s not unique to gangbangs. Every fantasy, from monogamous romance to BDSM, requires thoughtful negotiation and risk assessment.

Next Up in This Series…

Lilly’s experience sparked intense reactions—not just about the gangbang itself, but also about its implications. One of the biggest questions that came up was:

Would men date or marry a woman who’s had a 100-men gangbang?

Many people assume the answer is an obvious “no.” But what does the data say? That’s what we’ll explore in the next email.

Now, I want to hear from you:

Does a 100-men gangbang sound appealing to you? Why or why not?

Join the conversation on Instagram or X—I’m curious to hear your take!

With curiosity,
Dr. Zhana