Category: Newsletter

Finally! A Consent Policy That Makes Sense

My favorite play party Top Floor NYC is coming up soon! If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I’m a huge fan of this party. But there’s one rule that I’ve always hated—not just at Top Floor, but at most play parties…

Did “Harlem” Just Misrepresent Polyamory?

If you’ve been watching Harlem on Prime Video—a modern-day, Black version of Sex and the City—you know the show has been praised for its contemporary, funny, and authentic take on (at least high-end) Black love, friendship, and success. But in the final two episodes of Season 3 (and likely the last), they introduced a polyamory plotline that had me initially excited… and then completely disappointed.

What “Sex and the City” Got Right (and Wrong) About Love

Valentine’s Day always brings up big conversations about love, commitment, and choosing the right partner. And this year, I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Swooon for their new ‘Love Lessons’ series, where we delved into the intricate dynamics of one of television’s most iconic love triangles: Carrie, Mr. Big, and Aidan from Sex and the City

A Different Kind of Poly Drama

When was the last time you were fully present with someone you love? My unexpected “relationship” with X reminded me how easily screens can steal our attention. Let’s explore how setting boundaries and prioritizing presence can help us reconnect with what matters most—our relationships and ourselves—this holiday season.

Our First Play Party Experience: A Night to Remember

Our First Play Party Experience: A Night to Remember

As many of you know, a couple of weeks ago, my partner and I ventured into our first play party together, marking our initial foray into nonmonogamy after a year of monogamy. We chose Top Floor, and I’m thrilled to report that we had an amazing time—even better than we could have hoped for.