Category: Newsletter

The Appeal (and Reality) of a 100-Men Train

Happy International Women’s Day! In the spirit of women’s empowerment, let’s talk about something that until recently was absolutely unimaginable for a woman to even voice as a desire, let alone act on it: a massive gangbang/train. Thanks to all of the social, economic, medical, and technological progress we’ve enjoyed in the last 50 years or so, this is now a luxury some of us can not only dream of, but actually experience…

Finally! A Consent Policy That Makes Sense

My favorite play party Top Floor NYC is coming up soon! If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I’m a huge fan of this party. But there’s one rule that I’ve always hated—not just at Top Floor, but at most play parties…

Did “Harlem” Just Misrepresent Polyamory?

If you’ve been watching Harlem on Prime Video—a modern-day, Black version of Sex and the City—you know the show has been praised for its contemporary, funny, and authentic take on (at least high-end) Black love, friendship, and success. But in the final two episodes of Season 3 (and likely the last), they introduced a polyamory plotline that had me initially excited… and then completely disappointed.

What “Sex and the City” Got Right (and Wrong) About Love

Valentine’s Day always brings up big conversations about love, commitment, and choosing the right partner. And this year, I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Swooon for their new ‘Love Lessons’ series, where we delved into the intricate dynamics of one of television’s most iconic love triangles: Carrie, Mr. Big, and Aidan from Sex and the City

A Different Kind of Poly Drama

When was the last time you were fully present with someone you love? My unexpected “relationship” with X reminded me how easily screens can steal our attention. Let’s explore how setting boundaries and prioritizing presence can help us reconnect with what matters most—our relationships and ourselves—this holiday season.