The End of an Era: A Love Letter to My Apartment
At the end of May, I packed up the Lower East Side apartment I’d lived in for over four years—my first solo home in New York City—and put everything into storage.
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How to Debrief After a Threesome, Foursome or More
In my last newsletter on threesomes, I said that the most important conversations aren’t just the ones before clothes come off—they’re the ones that happen after, too. So today, I want to build on that and share something practical: a debrief template for processing group play.
What Makes a Threesome Work?
I was recently interviewed for a Vogue piece where we explored what it actually takes to make threesomes work. It’s a topic I’ve thought about deeply—personally, professionally, and academically—and today, I want to share more of my own perspective.
Navigating the Comparison Trap in NonMonogamy
Have you ever noticed yourself comparing your relationships—and then feeling unsure what to do with that? We’re often told not to compare our partners—and it’s true that comparison can stir up insecurity, jealousy, or pressure to keep things “equal.” But in nonmonogamy, comparison isn’t always the enemy.
Where Do You Meet Partners These Days?
I think it’s something a lot of us have asked at some point: “Where do I actually meet people these days?” They were feeling frustrated after yet another disappointing round on dating apps. I get it. I’ve been there. Apps can be exhausting. But they’re not the only way….
Living with a partner again wasn’t the plan but…
A month ago, I found myself doing something I had promised I’d never do again: live with a partner. It wasn’t a planned decision. In fact, it went against everything I’d built my life around for the past four years. But sometimes, the universe delivers opportunities that don’t align with the story you’ve written for yourself…
100 Men? No Woman Could Enjoy That… Right?
Over the past two weeks, we’ve been exploring the story of Lily Phillips and her now infamous 100-men gangbang. Today, we’re wrapping up this three-part series by tackling the most common objections people raised…
Would Men Really Marry a Woman Who’s Had a 100-Men Gangbang?
Last week, we explored why some women like Lily Phillips find the idea of a 100-men gangbang hot—and how Lily Phillips’ experience isn’t as unique as you might think. Lily’s experience sparked intense reactions—not just about the gangbang itself, but also about its implications. One of the biggest questions that came up was: Would men date or marry a woman who’s had a 100-men gangbang?
The Appeal (and Reality) of a 100-Men Train
Happy International Women’s Day! In the spirit of women’s empowerment, let’s talk about something that until recently was absolutely unimaginable for a woman to even voice as a desire, let alone act on it: a massive gangbang/train. Thanks to all of the social, economic, medical, and technological progress we’ve enjoyed in the last 50 years or so, this is now a luxury some of us can not only dream of, but actually experience…
Finally! A Consent Policy That Makes Sense
My favorite play party Top Floor NYC is coming up soon! If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I’m a huge fan of this party. But there’s one rule that I’ve always hated—not just at Top Floor, but at most play parties…
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