Author: Dr. Zhana

Finally! A Consent Policy That Makes Sense

My favorite play party Top Floor NYC is coming up soon! If you’ve followed me for a while, you know I’m a huge fan of this party. But there’s one rule that I’ve always hated—not just at Top Floor, but at most play parties…

Did “Harlem” Just Misrepresent Polyamory?

If you’ve been watching Harlem on Prime Video—a modern-day, Black version of Sex and the City—you know the show has been praised for its contemporary, funny, and authentic take on (at least high-end) Black love, friendship, and success. But in the final two episodes of Season 3 (and likely the last), they introduced a polyamory plotline that had me initially excited… and then completely disappointed.

What “Sex and the City” Got Right (and Wrong) About Love

Valentine’s Day always brings up big conversations about love, commitment, and choosing the right partner. And this year, I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Swooon for their new ‘Love Lessons’ series, where we delved into the intricate dynamics of one of television’s most iconic love triangles: Carrie, Mr. Big, and Aidan from Sex and the City

Kan(Ye), Bianca & the Naked Dress: Publicity Stunt, Kink, or Abuse?

Last Sunday at this year’s Grammys, Kanye (Ye) West and his wife Bianca made headlines—not for the music, but for Bianca’s outfit. Or rather, her lack of an outfit. Dressed in a sheer, skin-tight slip that left absolutely nothing to the imagination, Bianca’s look sparked intense reactions ranging from admiration to outrage (though mostly outrage). Some called… Read More

What We Get Wrong About Age, Consent, and Sexual Misconduct

Recently, an old NYT headline about pedophilia (“a disorder, not a crime”) got recirculated on X. Predictably, there was massive amount of outrage, especially since some accounts with huge followings (including Elon Musk himself) commented on or reshared it. My response to it went viral, garnering over 9 million views. This came shortly after the… Read More