Many men these days seem obsessed with their “cum loads” – they want them to be substantial in size and reach great distances. Tracy Clark-Flory did an article for Vocativ on the topic, and I helped with the story, including doing a Periscope broadcast for her to hear from some real men about why this
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Last week, I got interviewed by Sophie St. Thomas for a Mic piece about establishing consent in polyamorous relationships and the frequent experience poly people have that because they’re poly, they are “DTF” (down to fuck). Check out the article: There’s a Conversation About Polyamory We’re Not Having.
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As threesomes and other forms of group sex become ever more visible, it becomes ever more important to understand people’s interest in and experiences with these alternative sexual activities. A new Canadian study sheds some light on this issue, providing data on Canadian undergrads’ attitudes toward, interest in, and experience with threesomes. Head on over to my Psychology Today
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Masturbation—stimulation of your own genitals for sexual pleasure—has a very rocky history in the U.S., especially when it comes to teens. Only a short century ago, self-pleasure was considered both morally evil and harmful to physical and mental health, and so clergy, public officials, and medical doctors all embarked on a quest to rid humanity
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As polyamory and other open relationships options become more visible, more and more people are wondering if that could be the right choice for them. And for a good reason: Poly is really not for everyone (nothing sexual ever is, really): It’s socially stigmatized, emotionally more complex, and logistically more complicated than monogamy. But how
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“We’re often taught that sex comes with consequences. But is our fear of these risks making us alienate and punish people with sexually transmitted disease?” Me and one of my NYU Human Sexuality students got interviewed for the Only Human podcast on WNYC radio about perceptions of risk from STIs, and our society’s overblown fear
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How Pleasurable is Oral Sex With Hookup Partners? I ask and answer this question in my Psychology Today article because, there are a lot of stereotypes but very little research to answer these types of questions. In my writing, I concluded this study brings some good news and bad news but fortunately, I have found studies that gives us actual
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It is important to find out if you and your partner have sexual differences. If you do, do not be too worried. There are methods to making those differences work out! Take into consideration, partners will have different sexual interests. Sophie Saint Thomas quoted me in a VISE article called, How to Make Sex and Relationships Work
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Don’t forget to mark this date on your calendars! On March 24th, I will be talking about Consensual Non-monogamy and the Social Sciences at the NYU Silver Center For Arts And Science. It will be from 6:00-7:30pm in Room 520. For more information: nyuAUSA See you there!
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Last month I went to a 2-day event, where it was sex education workshops during the day (I taught a class about Hooking up Healthy) and a sex party at night. My friend and fellow sex and relationship educator Atrina taught a class on nonmonogamy and designing your open relationships. So we sat down and did a Q &
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