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You Can Be in an Open Relationship without Going All the Way

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You Can Be in an Open Relationship without Going All the Way

A lot of couples struggle to find complete sexual fulfillment in long-term monogamous relationships. However, opening up to consensual nonmonogamy carries its own set of challenges and fears. And the reality is, complete sexual and romantic openness (like, polyamory, for example) wouldn’t work for everyone either. Luckily, there’s a middle ground. Enter what the famous sex advice columnist Dan Savage called “monogamish”.

“Monogamish” is a term to describe couples that are “…mostly monogamous but [engage in] some small amount of sexual openness,” as I explain in an interview for this Vice article “I Went to a Sex Resort to Try and Learn to Be ‘Monogamish‘”.  Different couples define their arrangement differently. Some allow their partners to flirt with or kiss others, while others might go to sex parties while only having sex with each other or participate in very occasional threesomes. Being “monogamish” is different for everyone and there is no one right way to do it.

Exploring the idea of being “monogamish” is becoming increasingly popular recently. The key to exploring this (and anything else you might want to try in your relationship) is to communicate. Take the time to talk to your partner and figure out what your individual desires are. Once you figure out what you want individually, find the overlap and try starting with the least “scary” activity on your list and work your way up.

Learn more about being “monogamish” and one of the many ways to give it a try, by reading this article. And if you want to discuss things with an expert, try scheduling a consultation with me. All one-off sessions are 50% off all of January!

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Are women who carry condoms judged for it? Apparently, not by other women. According to a study with a sample of about 300 female Canadian undergrads, women rate female carriers more favorably than male carriers and believe that their female peers would do the same (or at least that they would not differently rate a condom carrier based on gender.) However, women don’t believe that men would agree with them on these ratings--the participants in this study thought that men would rate female condom carriers less favorably than male ones! Despite this last finding, participants in this study do not believe that society would harbor strong negative views toward either male or female condom carriers--which is perhaps a reflection of their status as college-educated.
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link to study: ow.ly/Kndx30mV47C
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