This program is for anyone who wants to be more intentional and smarter about their relationship choices, regardless of their current or ideal relationship structure (monogamous, nonmonogamous, single, or celibate).

This is for you if you’re not sure what’s the right relationship structure for you. If you know what the right structure is but don’t know how to get there. Or if you are in the right place, but you’re struggling to maintain your relationship in a healthy, ethical, and pleasurable way.

That said, the first pioneering cohort of LSU is for those who are highly motivated to be part of the first, rough-around-the-edges, unpolished version of this program, and help us make it better by providing feedback throughout the year. That’s why we’re opening it up to only 105 students at this time.

LSU is truly a one-of-a-kind program. What makes it unique are five key things:
1. The LS Method rejects one-size-fits-all models, and fully custom-tailors all solutions to the specific psychological make-up and life circumstances of each individual, couple, or larger relational unit.
2. It’s a comprehensive step-by-step process for designing the ideal sex and love life for you (or as close as your situation allows) AND acquiring all the key psychological tools and skills you need to step into that life and live there well.
3. It is firmly rooted in science, providing a synthesis of all of the up-to-date available theory, research, and practice.
4. It is developed and taught by someone who has the academic knowledge and credentials, consulting practice, AND extensive personal experience with all corners of the relational universe in a way very few people do.
5. It is truly inclusive and shame- and judgment-free of all sexual and relational needs, desires, and boundaries.

I’m an adjunct professor of sexuality at New York University, a developmental psychologist with a PhD from Cornell University, a relationships consultant with over a decade of experience helping people design their ideal love lives, and someone who’s fearlessly and unapologetically explored all the corners of the sexual and relational universe in a way very few people have dared to. You can learn more about me and my personal and professional background here.

The Open Smarter course, my first online course that is no longer available to purchase, was in many ways the early prototype for LoveSmarter™ University.

It focused primarily on people who were interested in shifting from monogamy to nonmonogamy. It was built on a framework that was not yet fully streamlined. And it was taught differently - as a self-paced online-only course without the additional live events and community support. We found this was not the most effective way for people to experience the kind of transformation the framework can create when there’s more guidance and community support.

LoveSmarter™ University takes everything my team and I learned from 3 years of teaching Open Smarter, and upgrades it to the next level.

The first 3 months of LSU are a key component of the LS Method and are recommended for everyone to consume in full.

Each of the following 9 months focuses on a specific skill necessary for successful relationships. Most of these skills are useful for all relationship structures, though some are much more essential in some structures than others.

Depending on the relationship structure you will be navigating and your level of proficiency at the skills critical for that structure, you might find you will need to dedicate more time and energy in some months and less in others. Even if you consume and apply half of the concepts in LSU, you will get way, way more than your money’s worth.

The first-year version of LSU will focus on quality content that leads to transformation rather than high-production value videos and materials that look good.

After the first cohort has gone through the whole first year of content and provided feedback on it, we will incorporate that feedback and invest in a more professionally-produced version of the videos and other materials. We are also going to continue adding new mini-courses over the next several years until LSU covers each and every topic related to thriving in relationships and experiencing amazing sex.

The first cohort of LSU students will get access to all of the materials released during this first year PLUS the high-production value courses released next year PLUS all of the new mini-courses we launch that following year. PLUS a special discount to the full membership for the next few years if they want to continue to stay connected via the live events and community.

All of the live events will take place on weekday afternoons Eastern Standard Time.

Some of the live online events will take place in the early afternoon, around 3pm ET (12pm PT/ 9pm CET/ 6am+1 AET). Others will take place in the late afternoon/early evening, around 6pm ET (3pm PT/ midnight CET/ 9am+1 AET). We are asking about your availability in the Onboarding Questionnaire and we’ll take into consideration the times that work best for most people.

All Book Clubs (in-person and online) will take place in the evening, 7-10pm ET (4-7pm PT / 1-4am CET / 10am-1pm+1 AET).

Look, you could certainly game the system and pay for one person and share the login info with your partner, we’d never know, right?

BUT when you get the Couples Package, both you and your partner get personal individual access to the LSU platform, which means:
- Dedicated live event invites, RSVPs and links (so you can join separately at your own leisure);
- Dedicated access to the community (we will only allow account holders to join our private community);
- Dedicated access to the course modules (so you can can each go through the materials at your own pace and watch the lessons separately);
- Dedicated access to the personality assessment and quizzes (so you each have your own results and keep them private to you if you wish so.)

You will have access to this version of the Curriculum until we replace it with the upgraded, high-production value of the materials some time in 2025. After that, you will have access to that version of the Program for another 12 months.

Great! Welcome :) Check your email for all the next steps info, complete the Onboarding Questionnaire so we can get to know you better, mark your calendar for the first few upcoming live events (April 15 for the Kickoff Launch, April 23 for the Onboarding Workshop, and April 30 for the first LS Member Social), and then sit back and relax until the program officially launches April 15. If you want to get ahead, start reading the first book in our Book Club series: The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry.

All of the pre-recorded content, quizzes, and materials for Month 1 will become available on April 15. After that, each month’s content will be dripped on the 1st of the month, starting June 1 for Month 2. 

There are no refunds available for this version of LSU. You can read more about this on the section below here.