Once Upon a Time, You Bought Into

a One-Size-Fits-All Model of Sex and Love...

You followed the rules (or tried to), and did your best with the limited skills you were taught. Despite your efforts, all too often you ended up frustrated and disappointed — far from the passionate, thriving, joyful sex and love life you desired.

Today, the landscape is so different:

You have more relationship options than ever before (hot monogamy, open relationships, swinging, monogamish, casual sex, dating around, don’t-ask-don’t-tell, hierarchical polyamory, nonhierarchical polyamory, solo poly, single-by-choice, celibate-by-choice, relationship anarchy, the list goes on). And there’s growing social acceptance of all them.

Yet, many of us continue to stumble.

Lost in the maze of options without clear guidance on choosing the right one...or the necessary skills to implement it well, we often hurt ourselves and people we care about in the process.

Having too many options (especially without a proper map, compass, and toolbox) is as overwhelming and paralyzing, as having too few options is stifling and restrictive.

Luckily, you don’t have to wander alone through the maze. It doesn’t even have to be a maze!

For decades, sex and relationship scientists have been studying the different components of healthy and thriving relationships, and therapists, counselors and coaches have been helping clients get there.

But all the pieces have remained disconnected: each researcher or practitioner focused on a tiny piece of the puzzle...all of them siloed in their own corners of the sexual and relationship universe: Some attachment patterns here, some sexual techniques there, some communication strategies over there...

It’s not that the knowledge hasn’t existed. It’s that too many smart people have been researching the trees, leaves, roots, and soil while missing how it all comes together to build the forest.

No one has had the necessary academic background AND personal life experience AND deep personal motivation to weave together the components and synthesize all them into a single, coherent process anyone can use to align their desires, values, and life circumstances to design the sex and love life that's right for them.

Until now.

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  1. • I’ve seen the struggles of people doing relationships blindly, and I have the solution.
       
       On April 1st, 2024, I’m aggregating:
     • * two decades of academic research and teaching on human sex and relationships,
       * a decade of consulting individuals, couples, and larger relational units to design their dream sex and love lives, and
       * a lifetime of bold and unapologetic explorations into all corners of the sexual and romantic universe…
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       … into a “first of its kind” map of the relationship landscape, an accurate compass to orient yourself by, and a proven set of practical tools to navigate your journey safely. 
     • It’s a complete, step-by-step framework to identify the ideal relationship style for you and your current life circumstances, then design and implement your chosen style in a way that maximizes pleasure and minimizes harm for everyone involved.
       
       LoveSmarter™ University will set the stage for a new paradigm of custom-tailored, science-driven, truly ethical relationships…whether that’s strict, lifelong monogamy or you need a spreadsheet to keep track of all your lovers ;-)
       
       And I’m inviting you to be a part of this revolution.
       
       Join the waitlist to find out more about what’s in the membership, get behind-the-scenes updates, and be the first to know when it’s live.
       
       Because your sex and love life is too important to be left to chance.
       
       Stay curious,
       With love,

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