What are the motivations for infidelity?
There are many factors that play into the cause of infidelity including anger, stress, neglect, a general lack of love or passion, and more. Infidelity and cheating is interesting to study on the quantitative side. We can look at how many people cheat, the demographics of cheaters, etc, but what about the psychological motivations for cheating? What exactly drives a person to cheat? This week we spoke to Dr. Dylan Selterman who has conducted some great research on what motivates people to cheat.
Dylan Selterman received his B.A. in Psychological and Brain Sciences from Johns Hopkins University in 2006 and his Ph.D. in Social/Health Psychology from Stony Brook University in 2011. He currently teaches at the U of Maryland, where he also runs the DREAM Lab, where they research romantic attraction/dating, emotions (e.g., jealousy), attachment in interpersonal relationships, patterns of dreaming, sexual behavior, and morality/ethics. Outside of the classroom, Dr. Selterman leads a mindfulness meditation group for students, and writes for popular media.
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