Once, a friend of my husband who is not a social scientist (he’s a computer geek) decided to read one of my published research papers. After reading a few pages, he said to my husband: “I never thought you could make sex sound so boring!”
I’m not sure what he was expecting to find in an academic paper – even one on a sex-related topic, but I can assure you that academic papers, sex or no sex, will not typically give you an erection or make your panties wet.
But every now and then, sex research papers can get graphic enough to come close to giving one an erection/panty wetting.
I just found one such example in a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior on the practice of felching.
For the uninitiated, felching is sucking or eating semen out of someone’s anus. As the authors explain, it does sometimes happen among heterosexual couples, but for the most part, it’s a gay male thing. They go on to describe the practice in a wonderfully illustrative way:
What usually happens is that one man performs unprotected anal sex on another man, ejaculates inside of that man’s anus, sucks out the semen from that man’s anus, and then swallows the semen. Sometimes, this process is taken one step farther by then feeding the semen back to the original recipient by drooling it onto or into his mouth or exchanging it back and forth with him orally with a series of deep kisses (i.e., French kisses).
Apparently, this last part of this process—the oral exchange of the semen between the partners—is called ‘‘snowballing’’ and for many men is an integral part of the whole felching thing. The article says nothing about whether santorum (the frothy mixture of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex) is also an integral part of the felching act, but I assume that it must be.
The article then continues to describe felching.
Another variation on felching—one that carries with it considerably greater risk—entails several men performing unprotected anal sex on the same man, all of them ejaculating into that man’s anus, and then one man (who may or may not have been a participant in the anal sex/ejaculation activities) coming along to eat the semen from the group of men out of the recipient’s anus, often concluding
the activities by sharing the semen with the original recipient via kissing.
At this point you’re either saying ‘Oh, gross!’ or ‘Mmmm, hot!’ depending on your particular sexual preferences.
But I wasn’t actually trying to disgust nor arouse you. I was trying to tell you about the first actual study of felching.
In this study, the researcher analyzed over 1,300 randomly selected profiles of men looking for unprotected sex with other men (i.e., barebacking) on BarebackRT.com, the largest barebacking partner-finding website out there.
The results: 17% of all profiles on this website expressed a desire to find partners for felching.
Men looking for felching were more likely to be young, White, bottoms (i.e., receptive partners), and HIV-positive.
They were also more likely to be interested in other risky sexual activities, including:
– having sex while high, otherwise known as PNP – partying and playing;
– having multiple-partner sex;
– preferring rough sex;
– disliking condoms;
– anonymous sex;
– “wild” and “uninhibited” sex;
– eroticizing ejaculatory fluids, otherwise known as ‘cum slut’ or ‘cum dump’;
– sex involving bondage (how is that risky?!);
– getting HIV if they are HIV negative, otherwise known as ‘bug chasers’; and
– not caring about the HIV status of their partners.
Who would’ve thunk it? Male gay felchers are a risky bunch! Of course, keep in mind that ALL of the men on this particular website are a risky bunch – they are all looking for bareback partners.
Apparently, 1 in 5 adults STILL don’t know that barebacking IS the primary way you transmit HIV and other bugs during sex (in the UK at least, and I have no reason to suspect Americans are any better informed), so let me say this loud and clear – barebacking, especially anal barebacking, with anonymous partners is as risky as it gets when it comes to sex.
With that out of the way, I’m just wondering, why is felching not a ‘thing’ in heterosexual communities? Or is it, and for some reason I don’t know about it?! Any insights appreciated… 🙂
Klein, H. (2012). Felching Among Men Who Engage in Barebacking (Unprotected Anal Sex). Archives of Sexual Behavior, 41, 377–384. doi:10.1007/s10508-011-9770-0