Here’s a recap of what we talked about on this week’s Legit Sex Science Show on Periscope and Facebook Live (Tuesdays, 11am-1pm New York time), with info and links to all the sex research studies and sex toys we discussed. And if you’d rather watch Dr. Zhana than read here, the Periscope replay is at the bottom of this blog post! Make sure you follow Dr. Zhana on Periscope (@DrZhana) or Facebook (@ZhanaVrangalova).
Sex Research News
Intelligent Women are Intimidating to Men, Even if They’re Super Attractive
- Does another person’s higher intelligence and attractiveness make you more likely to want to see them again? According to a study of over 4,200 heterosexual speed daters, it depends on whether you’re male or female.
- For women, desire to see the man again increased along with his attractiveness as well as with his intelligence. That is, there was no cut-off point for women when it came to either of those qualities.
- For men, things were a little different: The more he perceived her as attractive, the more he wanted to see her again, but with intelligence, this was only true up to a point, of about 7 on a 1-10 scale, to be more precise. Women perceived to be super smart, like a 9 or a 10, were less likely to get a second date than their smart-but-not-too-smart peers.
- The takeaway? Smart women are intimidating,on average, and being super attractive can’t fix that “economic bad.”
Hormonal Birth Control Puts Women (Especially Teens) at Risk for Depression
- A new longitudinal study followed a nationwide Danish cohort of over 1 million women (ages 15-34 and not diagnosed with depression at the beginning of the study) for over a decade.
- 13 years later, those women who used hormonal contraceptives were more likely to be on antidepressants and to have gotten diagnosed for depression–and this link was strongest for teens.
- The takeaway? Mood imbalance is a potential adverse effect of hormonal contraceptive use, and is something to be aware of when deciding if birth control is right for you or your teen.
Identity-Discrepant Porn Habits of Gay and Straight Men
- Do people only watch porn that features the kind of sex they have/want to have in real life? Nope! A new study with over 800 men finds that there’s a fair amount of guys who watch porn that is not consistent with their sexual orientation.
- Gay and bi men reported watching more porn than straight men in the past 6 months. However, the porn they were watching wasn’t always gay…
- In fact, 55% of gay men reported watching straight porn at least once in the past 6 months.
- Similarly, 20% of straight men reported watching gay porn at least once in the past 6 months.
- The takeaway? You can be into stuff in porn that isn’t what you’re into in real life, and vice-versa. (And that applies to categories outside of sexual orientation as well!)
Sex Toys/Products Highlights
The first toy I highlighted this week was the Hugo, made by the great Swedish toy manufacturer, LELO. The Hugo is a remote-controlled prostate massager that hits at both the prostate and the perineum (aka the taint). You can use it on its own or during other sexual activities, like intercourse or blowjobs, for an altogether mindblowing orgasm. And the remote control allows you to hand off control to your partner if you so desire–for the more adventurous ones, I recommend trying it out at a restaurant during dinner ;-). And even though this toy is specifically designed for prostate stimulation, we all have butts, so ladies, feel free to use it too.
Like almost all LELO toys, the Hugo is made of high-quality silicone that is body safe and pleasant on your skin, and it’s also waterproof and rechargeable. Just make sure you use plenty of water-based (not silicone-based) lube with all your silicone toys.
Get it now at Lelo.com and remember to use the DRZHANA discount code for 20% off and free shipping on all your purchases! And throw in some of LELO’s water-based lube while you’re at it.
The other toy we talked about today is for women: the The Touch by WeVibe, a clitoral external vibrator. The Touch has different speeds and vibration intensities, so you can choose a rhythm that’s right for you. And it’s anatomically perfect for clitoral stimulation–the pointy end can go straight on your clit if you like direct stimulation, or, if you prefer more generalized stimulation, just place cup your clitoral and labial area with it. It’s super simply, quick, you can do it over underwear, and you can easily pop it in your purse and take it with you on your night out or travels. And, of course, it’s waterproof, rechargeable, and made out of body-safe silicone, so could it be more convenient?
Get the Touch now at my favorite sex store The Pleasure Chest with free shipping (to most countries) for all orders over $75! Or if you live in NYC, LA, or Chicago, check out one of their gorgeous stores and do some in-person shopping!
Trust Intimacy Massage Oil
If you know me, you know I’m a sucker for massages, I get them all the time, from anyone who’ll give it to me. This TRUST Intimacy massage oil is my absolute favorite. Why? Because it’s incredibly smooth and silky, doesn’t get all gooey afterwards, it’s made entirely out of food-grade oils (apricot kernel, avocado, and grape seed), and it’s super body-safe (flavorless, scent-free, and vagina-friendly).
It’s even Kosher and vegan, if you care about those things. And if you’re not using condoms (which for hookups, we really hope you are!), it can double up as lube!
Get your bottle for 20% off with discount code “DRZHANA” on trustintimacy.com.
Does porn lead to sexual violence?
It does appear that people who watch more porn endorse more gender stereotypical values and become more sexually aggressive/accepting of sexual violence to a greater extent than those who watch porn less, these links are most often found in men who are heavy users, who watch violent porn, and who already have some sexist and violent tendencies. But it’s really not fair to single out porn as the type of media that makes people more sexually aggressive or sexists; decades of research have shown that greater exposure to non-sexually-explicit media in general (just your general TV, movies, music, video games) also leads to increases in gender stereotypes, acceptance of rape myth beliefs, and violent attitudes and behaviors. And remember, “porn” is not a monolithic concept–there’s lots of types of porn, including porn that’s produced in an ethical and feminist way, where performers are treated with respect and truly enjoying themselves. Go find it.
Until next time,
— Zhana Vrangalova PhD (@DrZhana) October 18, 2016