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  • Brooklyn’s First Sex-Positive and Polyamorous Community Is in Bushwick

    If you walk past it, you’ll never know it, but on the streets of Bushwick stands the Hacienda Villa, an intentional, sex-positive, polyamorous community co-founded by Andrew Sparksfire and my business partner Kenneth Play. Founded as a social experiment designed to celebrate sex, educate the curious, and dispel shame, the Hacienda is a growing phenomenon looking to change the narrative of how people approach relationships and create a community, right in the heart of Bushwick, a neighborhood filled with people living alternative lifestyles.  So how does the Hacienda work? And what is polyamory, exactly? Get the answers to these questions and more in this

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  • Recap – Sex Science Social: Navigating Consent in the #MeToo Era!

    Thank you to everyone who either attended or watched Wednesday’s Sex Science Social: Navigating Consent in the #MeToo Era! This topic can be difficult and complex, especially in today’s political climate, but I thought everyone brought forth and interesting and unique perspective on the various models of consent we were able to unpack. If you missed the event, check out the live stream above! Click here if you would like to support me on Patreon for as little as $2 a month! If you would like to make a one time donation to my work, you can donate via PayPal here. To

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  • Sex Science Social: Bicuriosity

    All women are at least a little bit bi. Men who say they’re bi are really just gay or straight. It’s not gay if it’s a threeway. If I have sex with someone of the same gender as me, I’m not cheating on my straight relationship. Every day we are bombarded with inaccurate, moralistic, and pseudo-scientific information and advice about sex and relationships. How do you figure out what’s true and what’s not? Join me next Thursday, November 16th at 8 pm at the Hacienda Villa in Brooklyn for a night of #legitsexscience all about sexual orientation and fluidity followed

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  • Ethical Slut Social Live Videos!

    For those of you who missed the Ethical Slut Social, check out the three-part video below! “PolyTalks and Wry Relationships” are guided open forums in a Q&A format. They explore Consensual Non-monogamy, Mono-Amory, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, DADT, swingers, BDSM, casual sex, non-exclusive dating, threesomes, and anything outside the realms of traditional monogamous heteronormativity. On September 10, Hacienda Villa hosted a panel discussion featuring Janet Hardy, one of the authors of The Ethical Slut. Thank you everyone for co-creating this amazing event for Facebook Live and our event audiences. I hope you enjoyed the talks, event space, social time and food!

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20 hours ago

Dr Zhana

Sexual attraction vs. romantic attraction. Yes, there's a difference! Sexual attraction is about who you want to fuck. Romantic attraction is about who you fall in love with. Both are usually discussed in terms of the gender of the people you're attracted to.

They often go hand in hand, especially among folks who are on either end of the sexual orientation spectrum (completely straight or completely gay) or people who are demisexual (only sexually attracted to someone after they've developed romantic attachment to them). Such folks tend to be sexually attracted to the same gender that they're romantically attracted to.

For bisexual people, the two often diverge. Many bisexual people are more sexually attracted to women but more romantically interested in men. Or vice versa.

Divergence in sexual vs romantic attraction can also apply to traits other than gender, like people's physical appearance or personality traits. You may be sexually attracted to athletic, dominant people but romantically attracted to kind, funny people. Our hearts and genitals sometimes like the same thing, sometimes they like different things.

When people feel this divergence, it can be confusing. It can complicate your labels and your identity. But it's perfectly normal and common!

There might be some evolutionary reasons behind it (for example, our genitals are more interested in good genes, our hearts in good long-term partners and parents). Or not. It doesn't really matter. You can choose how you want it to impact your life and to what extent you want to take action based on your sexual attraction or your romantic attraction.

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7 days ago

Dr Zhana

Got questions too awkward for your regular doctor? Well we have just what the doctor ordered! Join Dr Zhana and other experts to get your questions answered. No question is too awkward! The event is on June 20th at 7 pm. Get more info and tickets here: www.eventbrite.com/e/doctors-orders-pride-edition-tickets-62511605896 ... See MoreSee Less

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