For most of us, love hasn’t failed because we’re bad at relationships. It’s failed because we were taught there’s only one right way to do them.

LoveSmarter is the culmination of three decades of research, teaching, and lived experience as a psychologist studying sex, love, and relationships. In this book, I lay out a clear, evidence-based framework for understanding why people want such different things from intimacy—and how to design sex and love lives that align with your needs, values, and real-world constraints.

This isn’t advice about what you should want.

It’s a framework for figuring out what actually fits.

- Dr. Zhana