- My third and final doctoral dissertation paper, titled Who Benefits from Casual Sex? The Moderating Role of Sociosexuality and co-authored with one of my grad school committee members at Cornell, Dr. Anthony Ong, got accepted in Social and Personality Psychology Science. Turns out, people who are unrestricted in their sociosexual orientation (who desire, approve of, and have prior experiences with casual sex) have higher wellbeing following casual sex compared to not having casual sex. This was not true of those with a restricted sociosexual orientation. You can download an uncorrected final accepted version of the paper from my Academia.com page. The published version should be out in a few months.
- Another paper of mine (co-authored with my grad school advisor, Dr. Ritch Savin-Williams) came out in the Journal of Sex Research, as part of a special Annual Review of Sex Research section. It is titled “Psychological and Physical Health of Mostly Heterosexuals: A Systematic Review” and it found that, across 60 studies based on 22 samples, “mostly straights” reported more health problems and health risk behaviors than heterosexuals, but somewhat fewer than bisexuals. The Cornell Chronicle wrote a piece about it here. If you want to read the whole paper, the first 50 people to click on this link here can download it for free.
- I started working on new paper on non-monogamy with Amy C. Moors from the University of Michigan (an awesome scholar who’s been at the forefront of the new consensual non-monogamy research wave). Sneak preview: 9% of Cornell students reported their ideal relationship would be some kind of open (vs. completely monogamous).
- I published two posts for my Psychology Today Strictly Casual blog:
- Who’s Really Interested in Alternate Relationships? explored people’s attitudes toward and willingness to engage in consensual nonmonogamy. The post got picked up by Psych Today and received over 50,000 views.
- Is Today’s Youth Hooking Up More than Earlier Generations? compared the current generation of young people with the previous generation on hookups. Some fascinating stuff.
- A post I published late last month, Would You Have a Threesome with Two Partners of the Opposite Sex? (spoiler alert: Most men would. Most women would NOT), got picked up by Psych Today a week later and received over 100,000 views.
These numbers literally blow my mind. As academics, we are used to writing for an audience of—if we’re lucky—maybe 500. That there are so many people who will read about scientific research when written in an accessible way and made available for free, makes me giddy like a school girl.
- The first of my two pieces on casual sex for Kinkly.com came out. It’s called Is Casual Sex Right for You? 9 Questions That’ll Help You Figure it Out, and I think it serves as a great resource for checking whether you’re the kind of person who is likely to benefit or be harmed by frequently engaging in casual hookups.
- My first Playboy piece was published: Bros, This Is How Your Slut-Shaming Is Backfiring. A Sex Researcher Explains. In this fairly long (2000+ words) piece, I analyzed the reasons behind the paradoxical finding that men who are themselves more into casual sex are also more likely to hold a double sexual standard. It was one of Playboy Safe for Work’s website most popular articles with over 200,000 views.
- I got interviewed by the lovely Almudena Ferrer from Spain for her interesting blog called Bread & Sex, written in both English and Spanish, which profiles various sex educators and sex-related innovations around the world. Read about our interview here.
- I was a guest on Stephanie Johnstone’s and Dave McGee’s podcast Sex for Smart People where we talked about casual sex research and gave listeners some advice with their hookup-related problems. The episode will be available in early May.
- The great folks from Open Love NY, the largest East Coast organization devoted to polyamory, invited me to give a talk during one of their monthly discussion groups. So join me at the Manhattan Theater Club (311 West 43rd Street at Eighth Avenue, 8th Floor, New York, NY 10036) on Tuesday, May 27th from 7:30 to 9:30 PM for a talk called Is Consensual Nonmonogamy a Bad Thing? summarizing the recent research on this topic.
- The Casual Sex Project – a place for people to share their hookup stories with the world—is now a month old and doing well. It has garnered over 11,000 views, with its best day yet reaching 1,000 views and six submitted stories. (A more average day is 200-300 views and one submission.) The stories are varied in type (one-night stands, friends-with-benefits, group sex situations, paid sex, online sex, sex with an ex…) and quality of experience (from bad to blah to best sex ever), and come from people spanning a wide age range (18 to 50), four continents (North America, Australia, Europe, and Asia), different sexual orientations, occupations, religions…
Some of my favorite stories are the ones remembered 20 years later and never told anyone—until they were shared with The Casual Sex Project. Thank you so much to everyone who’s submitted their experiences—I really enjoy reading all of them and I hope you do too.
- Finally, I have unofficially begun the 1 K project – a book and documentary on the lives of people with over 1,000 partners. It is still too early to talk about the specific details of the project, but it has led to some fascinating conversations with some fascinating people that I am enjoying immensely. If you know of anyone who qualifies, please have them get in touch with me!
I told you it was a busy month.
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Until next month…