May 2015 – DrZhana

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  • Sex Advice Time!

    In this 3rd installment of Ask A Sex Researcher for Karley Sciortino’s fantastic blog Slutever, I discuss how to have anal sex, the psychological meaning of penetration, and how to get what you want in bed when faced with a selfish partner. Have a weird, dirty, ridiculous or just plain complicated sex question you want answered by Karley & me? We’ll be doing that this coming Monday on the Huffington Post Sex & Love podcast. So send your questions to Even better — record a voice memo asking your question (if you have more than one, record each question

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  • Let’s Talk About (Casual) Sex!

    Is there a casual sex epidemic among young people today? Do men really want more casual sex than women? Is hooking up harming our physical, psychological, and sexual health? Are hookup apps spelling the end of love, relationships and marriage? Can I hook up (often) and still keep my sanity (and reputation)? Casual sex both titillates our curiosities and stokes our fears, resulting in many myths and mysteries about the practice and those who engage in it. But what does the science say? Join me this coming Wednesday (May 6) for a discussion that will examine how much truth lies behind the myths

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  • Class Field Trip to Babeland’s Moregasm!

    Tomorrow, Sunday May 3, 7:30-9:30 pm, I’ll be taking my NYU Human Sexuality class on a field trip to Babeland for a workshop on orgasms. As the event description says: “Take risks, get more of what you want from sex, and be a better partner. We’ll show you how in this workshop based on our popular book, Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. Expand your sexual repertoire with our range of tips and techniques covering oral sex, anal sex, the G-spot, female ejaculation, and sex toys.” You always ask about fun sex ed-related events in the city or tell me how

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  • Guest on Playboy Radio: Head Games

    I recently had a wonderful conversation with Maya Jane Jordan – a woman with an incredibly sexy voice – on her show Head Games for Playboy Radio. We talked about hookups, the Casual Sex Project, the mental health status of BDSM and its practitioners, and the importance of embracing your sexuality without shame. It’s an excellent reason to subscribe to Playboy Radio: Check it out Head Games, Episode 20.

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20 hours ago

Dr Zhana

Sexual attraction vs. romantic attraction. Yes, there's a difference! Sexual attraction is about who you want to fuck. Romantic attraction is about who you fall in love with. Both are usually discussed in terms of the gender of the people you're attracted to.

They often go hand in hand, especially among folks who are on either end of the sexual orientation spectrum (completely straight or completely gay) or people who are demisexual (only sexually attracted to someone after they've developed romantic attachment to them). Such folks tend to be sexually attracted to the same gender that they're romantically attracted to.

For bisexual people, the two often diverge. Many bisexual people are more sexually attracted to women but more romantically interested in men. Or vice versa.

Divergence in sexual vs romantic attraction can also apply to traits other than gender, like people's physical appearance or personality traits. You may be sexually attracted to athletic, dominant people but romantically attracted to kind, funny people. Our hearts and genitals sometimes like the same thing, sometimes they like different things.

When people feel this divergence, it can be confusing. It can complicate your labels and your identity. But it's perfectly normal and common!

There might be some evolutionary reasons behind it (for example, our genitals are more interested in good genes, our hearts in good long-term partners and parents). Or not. It doesn't really matter. You can choose how you want it to impact your life and to what extent you want to take action based on your sexual attraction or your romantic attraction.

Recognizing your romantic attraction and your sexual attraction doesn't have to be complicating. It can be an opportunity to better understand yourself and your desires ... See MoreSee Less

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7 days ago

Dr Zhana

Got questions too awkward for your regular doctor? Well we have just what the doctor ordered! Join Dr Zhana and other experts to get your questions answered. No question is too awkward! The event is on June 20th at 7 pm. Get more info and tickets here: ... See MoreSee Less

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