December 2014 – DrZhana

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  • 1 Million Views on my Psychology Today blog!

    Just realized I hit a million views yesterday! I’ve been blogging about the science of casual sex and nonmonogamy for my Strictly Casual blog on the Psychology Today platform for the past 10 and a half months. When I first hit ‘publish’ on January 30, 2014, I had just gotten my PhD and I had virtually no media or social media presence – I had been an academic and nothing but an academic during my entire grad school career. Blogging for Psych Today was one of my first forays into writing for popular audiences, and has been an immensely rewarding experience – leading

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  • What Happens to Math Prodigies 40 years later?

    As many of you know, I tweet daily about new sex and psych research. A few days ago, I tweeted about a fascinating study that examined what happened in the lives and careers of people who tested in the top 1% of math ability some 40 years ago. Chris Woolston, a writer for Nature picked up the tweet, emailed me for additional comments, and incorporated both in a piece about this study. Check it out to learn more! Unequal fates for maths superstars: The fates of US child prodigies of the 1970s reveal great accomplishments but strong gender differences. Twitter matters.

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19 hours ago

Dr Zhana

Sexual attraction vs. romantic attraction. Yes, there's a difference! Sexual attraction is about who you want to fuck. Romantic attraction is about who you fall in love with. Both are usually discussed in terms of the gender of the people you're attracted to.

They often go hand in hand, especially among folks who are on either end of the sexual orientation spectrum (completely straight or completely gay) or people who are demisexual (only sexually attracted to someone after they've developed romantic attachment to them). Such folks tend to be sexually attracted to the same gender that they're romantically attracted to.

For bisexual people, the two often diverge. Many bisexual people are more sexually attracted to women but more romantically interested in men. Or vice versa.

Divergence in sexual vs romantic attraction can also apply to traits other than gender, like people's physical appearance or personality traits. You may be sexually attracted to athletic, dominant people but romantically attracted to kind, funny people. Our hearts and genitals sometimes like the same thing, sometimes they like different things.

When people feel this divergence, it can be confusing. It can complicate your labels and your identity. But it's perfectly normal and common!

There might be some evolutionary reasons behind it (for example, our genitals are more interested in good genes, our hearts in good long-term partners and parents). Or not. It doesn't really matter. You can choose how you want it to impact your life and to what extent you want to take action based on your sexual attraction or your romantic attraction.

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7 days ago

Dr Zhana

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