February 2014 – DrZhana

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  • What a Difference a Book Makes

    Almost 10 years ago, back in my hometown of Skopje, an overly ambitious psychology undergraduate embarked on an honors thesis that required way more work than an honors thesis should ever require. I interviewed a few dozen Macedonian gays, lesbians, and bisexuals about their coming-out process and decided to do one of the few (only?) qualitative research theses at the Institute of Psychology at the University of Ss. Cyril and Methodius. While researching  the topic of sexual orientation, I read every academic article I could possibly access online without paying the exorbitant prices journals charge for articles (our University library

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  • I’m speaking at CatalystCon East!

    During my academic career, I have been to and presented my work at many academic conferences, where scholars present their research to other scholars in a very scholarly way. This year, I will be going to my first non-academic sex conference, where non-academics (and some academics) present all sorts of sex-related knowledge to mostly non-academics in a less scholarly, more interactive and engaging sort of way. As described by founder/Creator Dee Dennis, CatalystCon is a “melting pot of sexuality that will unite sex educators, sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, those in the adult industry and anyone with a passion for

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  • Working from Home: Can There Be Too Much Freedom?

    I love working from home, not having a set schedule, or a boss. I really do. I love the flexibility it offers, the casualness of my day, the ability to wake up and go to sleep whenever I want, to stay in my pajamas all day, to get lunch or coffee with whomever I want whenever I want. I love the freedom to work in my home office, a coffee shop, a library, or even from bed. But that can sometimes get isolating. Especially during a winter like this when it’s either too cold or too wet outside to motivate

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19 hours ago

Dr Zhana

Sexual attraction vs. romantic attraction. Yes, there's a difference! Sexual attraction is about who you want to fuck. Romantic attraction is about who you fall in love with. Both are usually discussed in terms of the gender of the people you're attracted to.

They often go hand in hand, especially among folks who are on either end of the sexual orientation spectrum (completely straight or completely gay) or people who are demisexual (only sexually attracted to someone after they've developed romantic attachment to them). Such folks tend to be sexually attracted to the same gender that they're romantically attracted to.

For bisexual people, the two often diverge. Many bisexual people are more sexually attracted to women but more romantically interested in men. Or vice versa.

Divergence in sexual vs romantic attraction can also apply to traits other than gender, like people's physical appearance or personality traits. You may be sexually attracted to athletic, dominant people but romantically attracted to kind, funny people. Our hearts and genitals sometimes like the same thing, sometimes they like different things.

When people feel this divergence, it can be confusing. It can complicate your labels and your identity. But it's perfectly normal and common!

There might be some evolutionary reasons behind it (for example, our genitals are more interested in good genes, our hearts in good long-term partners and parents). Or not. It doesn't really matter. You can choose how you want it to impact your life and to what extent you want to take action based on your sexual attraction or your romantic attraction.

Recognizing your romantic attraction and your sexual attraction doesn't have to be complicating. It can be an opportunity to better understand yourself and your desires ... See MoreSee Less

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7 days ago

Dr Zhana

Got questions too awkward for your regular doctor? Well we have just what the doctor ordered! Join Dr Zhana and other experts to get your questions answered. No question is too awkward! The event is on June 20th at 7 pm. Get more info and tickets here: www.eventbrite.com/e/doctors-orders-pride-edition-tickets-62511605896 ... See MoreSee Less

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