If I go to a play party, I’ll definitely get an STI.
Sex parties are playgrounds for sexual assault and rape.
People who go to sex parties can’t have serious, emotional relationships.
Every day we are bombarded with inaccurate, moralistic, and pseudo-scientific information and advice about sex and relationships. How do you figure out what’s true and what’s not?
Last month, I hosted one of our highest-attended Sex Science Socials to date, the hotly-anticipated Play Parties edition.
Dr. Brooke Wells was my special guest for this event, and she presented some of the brand new research on play parties and the people who attend them!
Project Play! was an anonymous online survey (collected between April and December 2015) of over 1,300 U.S. residents who had attended at least one play party in the past year. At the event Dr. Wells and myself shared findings on:
1. Who goes to play parties?
2. What happens at play parties?
3. Sex, condoms, and substances at play parties
4. Sexual consent violations and negotiation at play parties
This research is not (yet) published is extremely-hot-off-the-presses info about play parties! I’m asked about Play Parties more than almost any other sexuality topic, and it was very exciting to share some of the scientific data to answer these questions.
Overall, we were able to identify some
- High rates of substance use and abuse
- High rates of lifetime sexual victimization
- Low rates of disclosure to medical providers
- Good sexual health practices
- Low abortion rate
- Excellent consent structures and practices at parties
- Relatively high psychosocial and relationship functioning
- High levels of community connectedness
If you missed Sex Science Social: Play Parties, you’re in luck; we streamed much of the lecture portion of the event on Facebook Live! Some of the answers may surprise you 😉